Seasoned with Salt, Peppered with Grace | Prayer and Hope for Unbelieving Adult Children
"Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone." --Colossians 4:5-6
Do you have family members who do not believe in Christ? If you answered "yes" like me, take heart, Jesus did too. According to John, “not even his brothers believed in him” (John 7:5) and Mark makes note of his family thinking he was "out of his mind" (Mark 3:21). They lived with Jesus for 30 years and did not KNOW him! Take comfort for although they did not truly know Jesus during his earthly ministry, after the ascension there they are in the upper room with the Apostles praying (Acts 1:14).
This is a topic very close to my heart as I see this unbelief in my own daughter. She is, like Christian in Bunyan's "The Pilgrim's Progress," trapped by Giant Despair, imprisoned in Doubting Castle. Lamenting her condition and blind to the fact that she possesses good news in her heart; the key of Promise that will unlock the dungeon that holds her captive is forgotten. So I pray that she "will know the truth" (John 8:32). I pray she will put her faith and trust in Jesus who poured out His own blood on the cross, taking her deserved punishment (1 Peter 2:24) to free her from the enslavement of sin. I pray her heart is softened and her eyes and ears are opened (Ephesians 1:18). I pray she pictures the warrior Jesus ready for battle and realizes nothing is too big for our Savior. I pray my husband and I will continue to shine Christ, speak truth, and extend grace to our daughter through email, Facebook messages, phone calls, and the very rare visit. I pray that God will continue to strengthen our marriage, root us deeper in Christ, and surround us with church family who love and pray with us, for us and for our daughter who many do not even know.
While home recently our daughter said, "Mom, why do you guys keep holding out your arms to me?" I pray someday she will truly understand what a precious gift she is to us and how loved she is, by her Dad and I of course, but even more so by the Lord whose arms are also open.
Relating to your unsaved grown child by Annette Cole
I looked at the row of velvet boxes and noticed a cross with a rose nestled next to it. I asked to see the attractive silver ring and bought it minutes later. For the first time in days, I felt a gentle touch of peace.
I'd been feeling only fear and grief as I watched my youngest daughter denounce her faith and rush into sin. Now I had a symbol of hope to cling to. As the father of the prodigal son placed a ring on his son's finger at a "coming home" celebration, one day I hope to do the same for my daughter.
It has been years since my daughter walked away from Jesus Christ. Today we call and visit each other, but it has not been easy. The Bible asks, "What fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Cor. 6:14, NIV).
Since the obvious answer to this is none, how do parents maintain relationships with their adult, unsaved children? I have had to find answers because my daughter does not want to be estranged from her family.
The remainder of this article can be viewed here: Relating to Your Unsaved Grown Child
The first paragraph of this blog was influenced by Jon Bloom's article: Jesus Also Had Unbelieving Family Members
John Piper's son Abraham, once a prodigal, wrote this letter from his perspective: 12 Ways to Love Your Wayward Child
For more of Christian's journey pick up a copy of John Bunyan's classic book: The Pilgrim's Progress
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