"Living and Dying Wisely: Getting a Good Name"
Passage: Ecclesiastes 6:10–7:14
“It doesn't really matter whether you grip the arms of the dentist's chair or let your hands lie in your lap. The drill drills on.” -C.S. Lewis
“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. I keep on swallowing.
At other times it feels like being mildly drunk, or concussed. There is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me. I find it hard to take in what anyone says. Or perhaps, hard to want to take it in. It is so uninteresting. Yet I want the others to be about me. I dread the moments when the house is empty. If only they would talk to one another and not to me.” -C.S. Lewis
1. Nobody gets to name their god; it is impossible to dispute God; the God of the Bible directs the good and the evil, Ecclesiastes 6:10-12; 7:13-14; Deuteronomy 29:29; Job.
2. Live life seriously; don’t miss out on the full-orbed wisdom of the experiences of dying, Ecclesiastes 7:1-6.
3. Take the long view; patient hope is better than arrogant whining, Ecclesiastes 7:7-12.
Life Group Discussion Questions
1. What kind of funeral would you like? What was one of the best funerals/memorial services you went to? Do you want to die suddenly? Are these questions too personal? Why?
2. What did Pastor Bob mean by saying that nobody gets to name their god?
3. If you are comfortable, tell the group about a time someone close to you died? What was it like? What did you change based on their death?
4. How does it help in our grief knowing that God controls the exact time of everyone’s death?
5. Read Philippians 2:12-13; 1 Corinthians 15:10; Hebrews 13:20-21. What is the relationship between 1) God’s controlling, equipping, working and 2) our striving, working, responsibility.